Our boys need a lot more from us than the traditional "birds and bees" talk. Boys need dads who take on the big topic of sexuality as a series of age-specific conversations, not just one fire hose experience in fifth grade! What do all these funny words mean when I start hearing on the school bus? How should I use all these new drives and hormones to get closer to a girl relationally and respectively? When I've been dating for a while, how will I know how far is too far?
Dads and guardians of any son age 10-20, this Journeymen conversation is for you.
OUTLINE & DISCUSSION STARTERS
Talk#1 Introduction. What is “Sex?”
3rd-5th Grade. “What are we talking about?”
Talk#2 Definitions. All the Words You Have or Will Hear.
5th-6th Grade. “Does my Dad know more than my punk friends on the bus?”
Talk#3 Relationships. Connecting the Dots between Physical Attraction and RelationalProgression.
6th-8th Grade. “I’m noticing girls and might even talk to one someday soon.”
Talk#4 Boundaries. How far is too far?
8th-11th Grade. “I have a girlfriend. It’s lasted a few months. I’m getting comfortable with her and she’s getting comfortable with me.”
Talk#5 “Dad, I’m getting married.”
20’s-30’s. “I don’t want to be an idiot in bed. I don’t want porn to be my tutorial. Please don’t assume that I’ve learned everything I need to know on my own by now.”